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23/07/2023 2:22 pm
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Yeah I caught my wife at it with a man in our bed. It was utterly disgusting and shameful. She had no excuse to behave this way. He was slobbering all over her. Both were naked and rolling around together, legs and arms everywhere. She had never been this eager with me. Never once can I remember her laughing and smiling and enjoying it so much with me. What made it worse was this.... he was our next door neighbour and supposedly one of my good friends. A guy I would often go out with for a drink or we would help each other with our cars, if we needed to borrow a little or just want to get together for a chat. He had been living next door for past four years. How long had this been going on? For sure he must have been here before doing this, this cannot have been the very first time.
They both stopped and looked up at me shocked. She scrambled to cover herself, he just lay there looking bored as if I had spoilt their fun and that is all there was to it. I could not get over how he could be so two faced, one of my friends and my wife, here in my bed.
How do you know that anyone loves you and wants you and you only? Even if they marry you how do you know? I would love to know. Until I find out the answer to this I am staying single. No way am I risking going through all of this disgusting stuff again.
24/07/2023 7:45 am
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This very awful for you. So sorry. Believe me if you had been married to me this not happen. Some women have integrity and values. We would sort out our relationship or end it before going with another man.
25/07/2023 8:10 am
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Sorry to hear this but there must have been signs that she was losing interest in you before this happened. If the woman is often too busy watching tv or meeting friends or hobbies or not wanting sex with you these are sure signs it is going downhill, did she want to cuddle or pretend to feel ill or have headaches? Did she seem very pleased to see you or encourage you to go out? These are all signs that things are not right between the two of you and before you know it, the woman has someone else in her sights and plenty of men eager to help her out. If she married lots of guys target married women cause they see her as bored and a push over for sex, free sex from a woman who married is most men's dream. She at home more, she available more and it costs no money. Great. They can even pop in and do it in your home without taking her out and dating her and spending on hotel rooms, what could be better.
30/07/2023 6:12 pm
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Ok. Sorry. But wifes do not cheat if their husband treat them nice and right. Only cheat if unhappy with husband. What was wrong with you and her that she want other man?
31/07/2023 10:36 am
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Catching someone at it is horrible, it is not so bad if the relationship has run it's course and you do not love them and want to be with them, but still a shock, still nasty, and still very upsetting, because you suddenly have a nasty surprised and have to deal with what it means for them to have gone off you and maybe lied to you. Anyone in a relationship they are not happy with should end it, no excuses, no waiting to see and finding out if it gets better or using the excuse you have nowhere to go and do not want to be alone, all of those things are selfish, childish and short sighted.
03/08/2023 3:44 am
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I feel very sorry for you but in a way she did you a big favour. You were better off knowing what a lot of scum she is - yes sorry but she is scum - and nobody in their right mind wants to live with or be married to scum - she saved you years of hanging around scum thinking they were worth being with. Supposing you had stuck around for another five years and then found out? That would be worse, would it not?
18/09/2023 9:15 am
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so you caught her in bed and she was enjoying herself you say she has no excuse for doing this well its very clear that she has its just that she isn't sharing it with you. I m sorry but there must have been signs that things were not right in your relationship you probably just chose to ignore them.
As for the question you pose at the end I don't think you can know that but your gutt instinks should help.
23/06/2024 12:21 pm
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Did you take photographs or video it? You could go over it with her and tell her where she went wrong or can improve, and the same with the guy. If that does not make them feel small and coy why not post it here and there, show it to her parents, whatever floats your boat, that will make her think twice about splitting her legs for some scum bag. Getting angry won't help you, you must make decisions of what is best for your future. Mellowing in self pity or anger is not the way.
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