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Ask me I hope you do not mind me asking,  but you say so many bad things about your guy and yet you stayed with him throughout, many would have ended it after the first or at least the second   big bad thing he did, how come you were there for so long with him? You say he should be accountable for his choices and actions but does this not apply to you too for keep going back for more?

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I hate to say this, but the pattern I have seen with some men is that if no intimacy is a personality trait, it tends to get worse rather than better as they get older. They then get set in their ways where it is normal to behave that way.

There is no physical or emotional connection or intimacy with my other half. He ignores me most of the day and if I express needs of my own he is surprised or annoyed. It's almost like I don't exist most of the time and this hurts.  I feel like I am living a half life, but scared of splitting up as the financial situation would be difficult. Same with my DH, he would never leave our house or lifestyle as it's too easy for him - I have suggested that we separate but he doesn't want to. We are like brother and sister. I wonder if he would think more of me if I went out to work and contributed to the bills? I think that I am going to have to leave though at some point however hard - we only get one life, and I can't bear the thought of it being like this forever! I feel stressed and heartbroken most days about it, especially when he is around - it's easier when he's not here.

Of course, I need to get a job, both for my sanity and finances. It is ridiculous to rely on a man for money and then complain about it, quite hypocritical.

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The worst thing a guy can do to you is violence. Cheating is no big deal. Most of the time you never find out about it anyway. The cheat does his own thing but comes home to you, that is all that matters, that he returns to you. To a guy sex is just a game, same as football, just fun. Nothing to do with his love for you and home life and family and promises. Two totally different things.

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I really can't understand why you kept on with this relationship for as long as you did he lied cheated and abused you, there are some nice thought full men out there but you need to think a lot more before you move in with anyone. You have done a lot to make yourself feal and look better so use that to find the right one.

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Well the only positive things in this post are about how you have lost weight and got out there and got a better job for yourself every thing to do with him is negative he hasn't given you any encouragement or support. Walk away and forget him he is not worth spending any more time on.