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Sorry but I do not get it. When I am looking for a new lover or partner I make sure it is someone who is single, living nearish, with plenty of spare time evenings and weekends. If I meet a married guy I don't bother, no matter what promises he makes, if the guy works nights or very long hours same thing, if he lives a long way away same thing. Yet you guys say you are in a relationship with a guy who lives in another country where you have to make do with zooming and skype, what the heck is that all about? You then end up waiting and waiting for maybe a chance to meet up, and he will tell you he cannot afford it and try to get you to go and see him!!! Telling you  he is a loser, yet you still don't see that he is a waste of time. You either spend a fortune on travelling to him or you do not see him at all, like he is some big prize. Maybe you also send him money and pay his rent etc, some of you silly women do this. All so that you can pretend you are in a relationship which really does not exist.