You will find a lot of people who claim they can advise you on how to find the right man, but believe me, unless they are serious and experienced life coaches and/or advice columnists and have a great man themselves you should ignore them.  Finding a suitable man may be different to finding the right one, finding one interested is another thing.

There used to be a romance scam and I am sure it is still going strong if you look hard enough and find it. Where women believed that if they signed up to one of these specialist websites for millionaires they would end up being married to a millionaire.  The women would pay to be a member because they saw it as a cheap and guaranteed way to get rich easy and quick.  More fool them.  Millionaires would rarely join such a website.  Millionaires are usually too busy working or having fun, or dating, they can get plenty of dates in the real world without going onto websites. Millionaires are popular and can be picky.  So why would they pick you, if you are making it clear that you have nothing in common with them and are a good digger?  If a millionaire was into going out with empty headed beautiful young women he would be better off paying per hour than marrying the person. Believe me when a millionaire gets married, if they do, they have to be very careful not to make a poor choice. And in many cases they are better off staying single rather than marrying someone who only has shapely legs or a big bust to offer.

What is your idea of a good guy?  Many women think it is someone who pays the bills and looks after them but have unrealistic expectations. I’ve come across very old ladies who want a very young, rich handsome man!  I’ve also come across old ladies who want a guy who will mow their lawn, clean their windows, take them to the doctor or hospital and be a bit like an unpaid full time slave.  In return for which the man gets?…. wait for it…. a home cooked meal! wow. He would be better off having total freedom to do what he wants when he wants and paying for a meal at the local diner.  One lady expected a man to devote himself to her, doing all of the decorating, maintenance, odd jobs, gardening and much more.  But she would not give him sex and she complained when she found out he had paid another woman for sex.   The truth is that she was lucky he was still there at all.

A lot of young women expect the guy to have a great job and income, new fancy car and much more,  taking her on expensive holidays regularly.  Yet she may be a single man with no income.   So ask yourself what is fair about that?  A naive person or a chancer would say well if they get to know each other and spend time together etc he will fall in love with her.  No he would not, they do not have enough in common and it is all a one way street, but if it were true that spending time together led to falling in love he would be better off walking away at the start and not bothering with any of it.

My idea of a good man is someone who is loyal, reliable, honest, caring and hard working. I work very hard and I am now a multi millionairess so I would not want a guy who expects me to take care of his bills or for me to go without things I can afford because he cannot afford them too.  I would not put up with a guy who cannot afford a good night out or where I have to pay for the both of us etc.But if I was unemployed and poor it would be ultra cheeky to expect such a guy because it would be a one way street.

Drug addicts tend to end up with others, the unemployed do the same. So stay away from the places these people go to if you are not like this and can do better than this.     We call it up dating and down dating. A very young beautiful woman is down dating if she settles for an ugly man or an old man.   If he is very , very rich it balances out more because they both give something to the other, both benefit. Believe it or not that is how all relationships work, whether it is a friendship, a marriage or a boss and an employee. Both have to give something of equal value to the other to get something back.

I often speak to guys, often very old married guys, who complain that women won’t sleep with them.  Wonder why!  But if they sweetened the pot perhaps they would change their mind.  One of the latest things going around now is where a guy lives alone and has his own house or flat so in return for sex he gives the woman free accommodation with her own room.  A swap.

In normal life with normal people these things do not happen. Then you get a guy who fancies a woman perhaps showering her with presents and flowers and great nights out. But he is not doing this because he is kind and generous, he is doing it to worm his way into her bed.

Ask yourself what you can offer a guy and what you want from him, and how realistic it is. Then how to go about it. You might want to consult a reputable and experienced, qualified psychic at http://www.webclairvoyant.com.

Lots of people live in a dream world. I get people contact me asking me to employ them as an agony aunt, life coach or psychic. Yet their email is all about them and what they want, never about offering something of equal value in return.  If this is how you go through life you end up unemployed or in a rubbish job, single or dating someone less than ordinary and so on.