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She's clearly having issues here, my friend. Some women find it hard to express themselves and reach for the bottle instead. That said, if the drinking stops the nagging, then let her have the bottle of gin and a straw. It might seem like an issue but, trust me, you'd be better off with a sozzled wife than an opinionated one who thinks she can and must comment (negatively) about everything you do and say, even if you give her space and go out with the lads for a couple of nights in a row. Some people just can'y be pleased 

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OK, so have you discussed her drinking habits with her directly?

She may be using the gin to relax or unwind from the day or perhaps she is suffering with stress or anxiety from work or her day in general. She may even have a health condition that she is scared of telling you about so drinks to make herself feel better.

I understand your concern for your wife and this new habit she has adopted.

It is time to have a heart-to-heart conversation and explain how worried you are for her and her health. Don´t approach the conversation with any judgement. Be super curious about what is going on for her. Time for some listening.

Be there for her, tell her how much you love her and how concerned you are.

Most of all don´t be judgemental, this is a time for showing compassion

Wishing you well 

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I suspect your wife may be bored. If you’ve been married for years perhaps your children are now independent and she’s feeling a void. Perhaps you and she need to reconnect and recharge.  Arrange quality time with friends and family, romantic weekends together or a longer holiday, regular outings in your local region to take in or revisit nature or culture. Can you do something together to keep fit both physically and mentally - walking or swimming, book club, films or trivia? Find something else to do at that time of day when she reaches for a glass. Change your routines and habits to replace the excessive drinking with healthier options. I know no one who has regretted cutting down or cutting out drinking. It improves health, sleep, skin, weight and mind to reduce or eliminate alcohol most of the time. But alcohol has usually taken up space and time where there is loneliness, dissatisfaction or sadness. It becomes a crutch along with the meaningless shenanigans you describe. Don’t overwhelm your wife with a new regime but gradually increase regular activities to achieve more and more alcohol free time. Above all don’t judge or disapprove if she continues to drink. It maybe that professional support is required if you cannot divert her interests.